Prepare for V-Day

Richard Baugh – Tailor Made Fitness for NottHeads

Valentine Sexy 2011

So what you haven’t met all your fitness goals.  Valentine’s is a time to go all out! The point is that you want to do something that makes you feel sexy and makes you look sexy to him or her.  You’ve made all these resolutions, but you haven’t made a lot of progress.  Don’t worry about that, you can still make a sexy impression on your significant other.  After all, you are the one they chose; you just have to make them remember why.

Ladies remember what heels and lingerie do for your legs and other areas, but most of all know how it makes him feel.  I know heels are not always comfortable, but if you do this right, trust me, you won’t be in them long.  If you’re not into heels and lingerie, then find that thing that makes you feel sexy and will allow you to make him feel the same way.  And by all means, don’t forget the fragrance, hair, and makeup.  This is the time to tantalize all the senses. I’ve given you two; you can work out the rest.  Touch, Taste and Feel are up to you.

6 Months Later

by NottHead

Fling

I never said I was ready for a relationship

I never said I was looking for a commitment

You know I care deeply,

I am emotionally involved

But remember

This thing of ours

Is more than casual

But it was always subject to change

But remember

You took the bate

Game never shall we hate

Shama 3 and Kal Cauthen

You’re a first round draft pick

My MVP candidate

But remember

You got blinded by the bling

Bright lights and pretty things

It’s all vanity in the end

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Photos from Cotton Mill Shoot – Kal Cauthen (model), Shama3 (model), Reno Valentine (stylist), John Washington (photography), Michael Davis (photography)

No Drama – Terrie Lynn

No Drama - New Year's Resolution

Terrie Lynn for NottHeads – Chokkklit Shop

When drama lives or visits your house, it may be time for someone to get a new address; better yet a new attitude. Let’s start the New Year with a fresh attitude and see how long it can last.

Don’t know if you’ve noticed this from my columns and books. I write about relationships, not necessarily how to get into one or how to keep one, but how to rid yourself of relationship drama.

“DRAMA CURES”

Now, some folks it seems, have an addiction to drama, because they need the attention, they’re bored or for whatever reason. For others, they’re caught up in “generational curses”. This means one or more parent had (or still has) major relationship drama in their day-to-day lives, which they may have inherited.

When you witness a parent going through psychical or emotional drama on a regular basis your mind recognizes this as somewhat normal behavior. You become desensitized to what is dysfunctional because it’s a typical part of your environment. So in turn your relationships mimic the ones from previous generations.

On the upside, generational curses can be broken. Sometimes we recognize that our relationships are not healthy but think we don’t have the tools to stop the cycle of madness that has been ingrained into our lives.

Phrase for 2011, “Don’t underestimate your ability to change yourself, and don’t over estimate the ability to change someone else.”

Terrie Lynn

Tips on being DRAMA FREE

• You need to clean out your closet. I mean literally clean out your closet. You will not have room for anything positive or worthwhile if you have too much clutter and baggage. Get rid of all the negative aspects and get a fresh clean start.
• Start making better choices. Now I know there are times when you thought it was the right thing to do at the time. But be honest with yourself. When it come to most bad decisions we make, we knew it wasn’t a good idea in the first place.
• Slow down. Avoid making decisions when you’re very sad, very happy or in a hurry. Don’t be so quick to react or jump to conclusions. If at all possible, take your time, consider the cause and effect.
• Other phrase for 2011 – “I’ll get back with you.”, “Let me meditate on that.”

Parental Approval for Teen Pregnancy, why??

Terrie Lynn for NottHeads – Chokkklit Shop

In the last few years, there has been an increase in teen pregnancy and analysts don’t know why. Every day more and more teenage girls of all races are giving birth to children. You would think with free and easy access to contraception and the abundance of information regarding AIDS statistics and other sexually transmitted diseases that teens having unprotected sex would be on the decline. But unfortunately the reality is quite contrary.

Teen Mother

Reality is: Two-thirds of these teen moms will not graduate from high school, will receive some form of welfare assistance, and have sons who are at a greater risk of being caught up in the penal system.

BASED ON MY BOOK: WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW, YOU DON’T

Excerpt from book, page 10

“Is it possible that because society has become more sympathetic with single moms, that females have become relaxed and irresponsible? Maybe teenagers are getting real life sex mixed up with sex seen on T.V.”

Or maybe, just maybe, teen pregnancy has become parent approved! Has it become such a common sight to see a teen with a pregnant belly, that it is now socially acceptable? Do parents take in stride the fact that they are grandparents after being a parent for only 13 or 14 years? Why are our babies rushing to have babies?

What You Think You Know

Just think for a minute……….. If trying to convince a grown woman to postpone sex for 90 days goes into one ear and out the other, how are we going to convince a teenager to restrain from having sex? The thought of a woman over 25 keeping her legs closed for 3 months is like asking black folk to give up barbeque ribs for tofu. Now, let us try getting a teenager to ignore all the sexual images they’re bombarded with daily; that would be like mission impossible. Believe it or not, that busy box in your living room you have entertaining/babysitting your kids, has a huge influence on our teens.

Excerpt from book, page 25

“Reasons why you may want to have sex:

If you don’t have sex with him, the other girl will. Let her!”

You have women who are way past legal age, and still don’t realize that within a relationship their man should treat them with respect or get to steppin. So how will we convince a teenager?

Terrie and Steve have similar advice on dating

Steve Harvey may be a bit more popular than Terrie Lynn, but there messages to women similar. Terrie interviewed both men and women for her book “Sisters Stop Asking Sisters”, the statements in both books are similar. The question is; are women paying attention??

Steve Harvey’s Dating Advice

The Oprah Winfrey Show | March 02, 2009

One of the original Kings of Comedy, Steve Harvey is the host of one of the most popular radio shows in the country, The Steve Harvey Morning Show. His first book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, is shooting to the top of the best-seller lists, and Oprah says she loves everything it has to say!

Steve says this book has a special meaning for him. “This is the first project that I didn’t do for money,” he says. “Other than my foundation—mentoring programs—everything I do is for money. I tell jokes for a check; I’m on TV for a check. … But this [book] right here I did purely to empower women.”

The Introduction

In his book, Steve says the way a man introduces you gives good insight into the status of your relationship. If a man introduces you as a friend or says your name with no title at all, Steve says you have nothing. “We’re very protective. We mark our territory. If a man loves you…he’s willing to profess it. He’ll give you a title after a while. You’re going to be his lady, his woman, his fiancée, his wife, his baby’s mama, something,” he says. “If he’s introducing you after six months, ‘This is…Oprah,’ you should be standing there going, ‘This is going nowhere.’”

Who Told Me I Was Grown

Terrie Lynn for NottHeads – Chokkklit Shop

Now from “What You Think You Know, You Don’t“ book!

Teen pregnancy

I dedicate this book to teen girls and their parents, or better yet, to the parent(s) of teen girls.

Dear Parent(s)

Have we thrown in the towel on our teen girls and accepted teen pregnancy as a part of our culture? If not, have you covered all bases informing your daughter about what a bad relationship is and the reality of being a teen mom?

This book is a must! Last year there were approximately 700,000 teen pregnancies. Maybe parents are in denial about their daughters having sex, forget what young love is like and the trials that young girls go through, involved in unhealthy behavior yourself and your passing this behavior on to your daughter. Not to insult you as a parent. But sometimes we need to get back to the basics in order to gain control or our relationships.

Many times……… what you think you know, you don’t.

Please do not send your young daughter out into the dating world uniformed, Lil Junior’s got game. Please, provide your daughter with some kind of defense, come back line, rebuttal, a strong hell-to-the-no!

What You Think You Know

This book is the uncut talk with teen girls in regards to sex and everything that comes with sex, from bad relationships, diseases, and being a teen mom.

Terrie Lynn

Page 32.

“Guys and their penis, when not in harmony, some of these trifling dogs will stick their dick in a doughnut hole if they didn’t think anyone was looking.”