Moment of Clarity

If you have ever been or known someone who has suffered in their love life, most of their life, then this book will bless them. So many people suffer from a disease of the mind, more like an illness, that there is no medicine to cure and yet they have no clue they suffer from it. This book is a variety of stories that comprise the moment of clarity when that disease was made clear. It’s a journal of events that led to the discovery and recovery of this mental illness that many battle with and few realize; love addiction.

About Me

Tameka Anderson

Born Tameka Anderson in Chicago, IL, L.A. spent her childhood years in the foster care system in Illinois. L.A. started writing at a young age to ease her pain of feeling abandoned and unloved by her parents. Writing has helped her fill the void she has had for years and it has helped her find peace within herself.

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I love God first….period!

Definition: Love Addict

“Painful attention, which is the attention that will result in negative consequences, was normal to me. Although I did not like the consequence of suffering, at least the pain was always consistent.

Let It Go – The Pain of Loving HIM

Let It Go

Southern Cutie on Relationships 

When he’s messed up in your relationship, can you ever really forgive if you can’t forget?  To tell the truth, forgetting would require a serious blow to the head causing amnesia. You can address the issue, find a way to deal with it and then put it out of your mind.  But one day, during a heated argument or other disappointment, that memory is going to come up and come right out of your mouth.  It never fails.  Before you have a chance to think, you have used it to punish him.

There are those of us who want to know all the details.

• Who was she?
• Where did you meet her?
• How many times did you see her?

As if knowing makes it easier to forgive.  We spend hours wondering what we could have done to prevent it.  So there it is, his mistake permanently etched in our memory.  We all know that the bad memories stand out more than the good.  We can rattle off all the bad things he has ever done without any assistance, forgetting the good times.  But, when he’s gone, all it takes is a photo, a song or driving past a familiar place that allows all the good things about him to rush into your thoughts like a tidal wave.  Don’t take him for granted.  All relationships require work.  Let go of the bad, cling to the good and keep moving forward.  Stop punishing him and yourself.

NottHead’s Thoughts:

You as an individual will never be perfect, so why should you expect you partner to be PERFECT!  This does not mean that you should accept being treated badly, but that score keeping makes all participants losers.  If there is no mutual effort to improve and sustain the relationship, then walk away.  Both parties will understand that there are some things that will never be forgotten, and can not be forgiven.

NottHead

http://www.nottheads.com

Focus

How do you deal with the reality of the inconsistency to derive at the stated objective? I need an answer to the question at hand. Confusing as it may be, but as simple as maintaining focus.

 

Good morning, I hope that all is well where you are. I am blessed to be in your world on this day and thankful for all that is and will be. As I rise from a long nights rest, I am renewed with the promises that the day may bring. I am hopeful for life’s eventuality, for a man without hope is wasting away. The same goes for a woman, all ya’ll!!

 

 

NottHead

http://www.nottheads.com

Motivation

The first step to getting somewhere is to decide that you are going to stay where you are.

J. Pierpont Morgan

 

Reality always forms around commitment.

Kobi Yamada

 

It is better to go the extra step every time than going the extra mile now and then.

Dan Zarda

 

Clear your mind of can’t!

 

Cravings – 1/2005

Craving

It’s cold outside; my skin is dry

Can you see it on my face?

I am trying hard not to let it show,

Is it apparent?

Burning at me from the inside out

Back to the dark recesses with you

It’s there; it won’t go willingly

Dash the thought

I know I want, want bad, fanatic

How long can I bare the strain?

That which waits at the door of ecstasy,

Calling my name

There it was, I flinched,

Hope no one saw that

Just beyond the tip of my tongue,

My bottom lip quivers,

Just let me touch, pinch,

A sniff

My neck tenses, fighting the urge

But, I can’t fall helpless,

Satisfaction does come in different colors and flavors?

I can’t go out like that

I can have, if I want

I can have as much as I want

It wants me to want

The unspeakable

Knows how to call my name

NottHead

http://www.nottheads.com