Category Archives: Love

6 Months Later

by NottHead

Shama3, Kal Cauthen - Cotton Mill shoot

Fling

I never said I was ready for a relationship

I never said I was looking for a commitment

You know I care deeply,

I am emotionally involved

But remember

This thing of ours

Is more than casual

But it was always subject to change

But remember

You took the bate

Game never shall we hate

Shama3, Kal Cauthen - Cotton Mill shoot

Shama 3 and Kal Cauthen

You’re a first round draft pick

My MVP candidate

But remember

You got blinded by the bling

Bright lights and pretty things

It’s all vanity in the end


Photos from Cotton Mill Shoot – Kal Cauthen (model), Shama3 (model), Reno Valentine (stylist), John Washington (photography), Michael Davis (photography)

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Parental Approval for Teen Pregnancy, why??

Terrie Lynn for NottHeadsChokkklit Shop

In the last few years, there has been an increase in teen pregnancy and analysts don’t know why. Every day more and more teenage girls of all races are giving birth to children. You would think with free and easy access to contraception and the abundance of information regarding AIDS statistics and other sexually transmitted diseases that teens having unprotected sex would be on the decline. But unfortunately the reality is quite contrary.

Teen Mother

Teen Mother

Reality is: Two-thirds of these teen moms will not graduate from high school, will receive some form of welfare assistance, and have sons who are at a greater risk of being caught up in the penal system.

BASED ON MY BOOK: WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW, YOU DON’T

Excerpt from book, page 10

“Is it possible that because society has become more sympathetic with single moms, that females have become relaxed and irresponsible? Maybe teenagers are getting real life sex mixed up with sex seen on T.V.”

Or maybe, just maybe, teen pregnancy has become parent approved! Has it become such a common sight to see a teen with a pregnant belly, that it is now socially acceptable? Do parents take in stride the fact that they are grandparents after being a parent for only 13 or 14 years? Why are our babies rushing to have babies?

What You Think You Know

What You Think You Know

Just think for a minute……….. If trying to convince a grown woman to postpone sex for 90 days goes into one ear and out the other, how are we going to convince a teenager to restrain from having sex? The thought of a woman over 25 keeping her legs closed for 3 months is like asking black folk to give up barbeque ribs for tofu. Now, let us try getting a teenager to ignore all the sexual images they’re bombarded with daily; that would be like mission impossible. Believe it or not, that busy box in your living room you have entertaining/babysitting your kids, has a huge influence on our teens.

Excerpt from book, page 25

“Reasons why you may want to have sex:

If you don’t have sex with him, the other girl will. Let her!”

You have women who are way past legal age, and still don’t realize that within a relationship their man should treat them with respect or get to steppin. So how will we convince a teenager? Continue reading

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The costs of dating you

Sisters Stop Asking Sisters, Im A Black Man Just Ask Me

Let’s be realistic! How much does a brotha have to be able to afford to maintain a relationship with you? Now, it’s always easy for a brotha who has it going on financially to dictate what another brotha should have the funds for. But the truth is, the well-to-do brotha make up a very small fraction of society and depending on your geographic location, that portion can be minuscule. So just how “fat” should the average brotha’s wallet be? What’s the compromise?

Can not afford

You Can't Afford Me!

Excerpt from book – page 12:

“Many black women are single due to economics. You have a large portion of sistahs that place a monetary value on everything. A man’s worth is determined by the amount of money he makes, how much he’s spending, and what kind of car he’s driving. This sistah has no conversation for the brother trying, even if he isn’t looking to dog her out. Little does she know, this sistah has already eliminated ninety percent of her options.”

Mr. BMW

Is economics to blame for so many single sistah’s? Continue reading

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Chokkklit Shop welcomes Terrie Lynn in October

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Terrie Lynn coming to the Chokkklit Shop

Terrie Lynn

Terrie Lynn

Atlanta, Ga. – September 29, 2010 – Author Terrie Lynn will be a new columnist for Nottheads.com’s Chokkklit Shop starting in October.  The Chokkklit Shop features articles and discussions on love and relationships.  Some of discussions will be ripped right from the pages of her books “Sisters Stop Asking Sisters…I’m a Black Man, Just Ask Me!” and “What You Think You Know, You Don’t! Terrie Lynn’s columns will be provoking in thought and interactive commentary.

Terrie Lynn is a definitive voice on relationship; from teen sex, to casual dating, lasting relationships bonds and everything between.

Sisters Stop Asking Sisters…I’m a Black Man, Just Ask Me!

This book is the journey into the uncut thoughts of African-American men regarding their perception of women, dating and relationships. The ultimate goal was to touch on as many scenarios as possible in order to provide women with closure and give insight on what might have gone wrong during the course of a relationship. So If you have ever gotten caught up in the why…

What You Think You Know, You Don’t!

An uncut talk with young girls/teenage girls about sex, dating, pregnancy and relationships.

Contact Info:

Darrell Nottage

NottHeads Inc.

Email: marketing@nottheads.com

Web: http://www.NottHeads.com

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Who I Am

3D Nott

I’m not what I ought to be;

I’m not what I wish to be;

I’m not even what i hope to be;

but with God’s grace and your love;

I am not what I was!

Author Unknown

NottHeads sharing wisdom

www.nottheads.com

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Young Sapling

This young sapling that stands next to me, taller than I; but I with more rings, more branches that stretch in various directions, what do I say to him? He stands with me in the same grove, I have seen more sunsets, and I have witnessed more changes in season. He can only be what his DNA is, how can I ask of him what I still struggle to be? How can he define his goals and ambitions, when I, more than twice his age, have not attained my own? What does he see? Is he looking towards me or is he looking to the horizon? Wisdom Trees

Does he know to check the wind and the season, so that the seeds of his ambitions find fertile soil? Is he checking before he releases, so that the grove stretches to heights and distances that he can only imagine? So what do I tell him? Do I say it with a beat; do I give it a rhyme or make it street? I’m not quite old school, I’m not Hip Hop, but I want him to see that there is something beyond right-now; there is something different than what is popular. What I want him to see is what is sustainable; what is legacy; what truth is; and what love is.

The battle scars that he gets from trying to change people’s minds and opinions are worth the bloodshed of his emotional tears. Worth it, so that his name and accomplishments will be remembered; so that those who look like him and want to be him, those that follow in his footsteps know what path to take; know what the appropriate season is.

You don’t have to have music or a fad to get someone’s attention, at times people will be slow to follow. Be diligent about what you nourish yourself with and you will grow tall, you will grow strong, you will provide shelter, you will provide wisdom, you will be a beacon, you will be a guide-point, because you will be there in that same grove. From that same grove you can reach many horizons.

What I See!!

I’m not quite old school, I’m not Hip Hop, but I am a part of rap. So he stands tall, wonder how and what his goals should be, should I emulate what I see on television? He comes from seeds, I’m not gangster, I’m not a thug, he can’t change his DNA, and he can’t change his skin color. How do I tell him that he will always be faced with the challenge, that his color defines people’s perception of him without knowing him. That it’s more than one battle, it is a lifelong war, to move to challenge, to conquer, but to conquer with love, and appreciation of those that went before you and those who are to follow. NottHeads Do not go it alone, but find some other warriors, some other soldiers who will stand by your side. Warriors that understand that the rhythm, of what he sees I have already seen, but since I’m not Hip Hop, I’m not Old School, I have to tell it in a rap. No music playing in the background, but there is a beat, there is rhythm. I do I make it prophetic, do I use metaphors, because there is a vernacular of what he is accustomed to, what captures his attention. Do I quote the existentialism: of “I must find a truth that is true for me . . . the idea for which I can live or die” from philosophers like Kierkegaard and Nietzsche. What about Chomsky, Shakespeare, Biggie, Tupac. Do I want to be poetic, and at the same time prophetic? Am I trying to entertain him or share some wisdom?

What he sees is no different; it’s just from younger eyes

NottHead

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