A Good Black Man

NottHead RainGood Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!”

A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up – he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow… Our beautiful black men we salute you, appreciate you and thank you for who you are and all you’ve done.

Pass this along to some of the Good Black Men you know and a few women that need to read it … So that they can recognize a good black man.

This document was provide by Miami Orchid via email with no original author cited.

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15 thoughts on “A Good Black Man

  1. Ahem, As s good black man. I would like to say. Great post. People have seem to foregot that the Hip Hop lifestyle that is projected on TV, really isn’t real at all. And when someone doesn’t fit inside that model, people need to realize that, it doesn’t mean a man isn’t good, or worthy.

  2. I agree. We have become pretty shallow in our society. I am always hearing about there not being any good black men but as the article states, we all around you… The problem is the thug mentality. You hear in the mainstream music “I need thug”, Ghetto Love, etc… and then they turn around and say, “there aren’t any good men…

    I think they need to check themselves and open their eyes…

  3. It is not even about what I see on TV. It is what I see in person. There are some good black men and then there are some who act like they are good. I once once worked on a team at work and I was the only female. I got an earful of how these men think. I have good male friends and some of their stories about their friends blew me away.

  4. Thnk u so much 4 an eye opener,i have a gud man ryt b4 my eyes and i nearly let hm go coz he is nt doin wot Ridge does 4 Brooke,bt nw i hav realized d@ he is a gud father n a husband. thank u so much!

  5. Good black men are strong black men as they know what they want in a woman and would not settle for anything other than that. A good black man should have a woman who confronts him when he loses his way or says the wrong thing; a woman who stands by him through thick and thin; a woman who love him for his depth of mind and the coupling of passion that she is never forgets each night she sleeps and each morning she awakes. The ‘meeting of minds’ from such a couple is a rare a beautiful chemistry that cannot be taken lightly. It is to be honoured and respected, like a true awakening of the breath we breath and our minds that think – never taking him from granted. A true, passionate, beautiful and natural Africanesque woman knows she has found her ideal mate, friend, lover and prospective husband as soon as he opens his mouth and says the first few words.

  6. This is Beautiful. Yes good black are indeed rare and yet they are everywhere. It seems we have all become afraid of what might happen if we choose the wrong one, be it man or woman. In any event no matter what society dictates, the definition of a good, strong black man depends on the experiences we have all been through. There are no guarantees in life so LIVE and LOVE FIERCELY with utmost respect and time will take care of the rest.

    1. Love it… I’ve been fighting my man because of my past experiences. Wondering I’d I’ve chosen wrong again. When I’m mad at this man and he goes out his way to ease my mind, I realize what I have. When I say I’m done and he says, “babe I love you and I’m not going anywhere.” I love our love. I must put my past where it belong and love my man, FIERCELY, now.

    1. You sound ignorant! Are 10% of the black women video hoes and groupies or living the female lesbian life which so many of you are these days. Wake up everyone is unique and comes to the table with their own set of baggage. Attitudes like yours condemn the man and potential loving relationship before it even starts. I’ve been there and done that. Any MAN who meets a woman with your negative mentality should run as fast and far as possible.


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