The first time a woman has relations with a guy she’s crazy about is an exciting and special time. Still, the question remains: When? Well, it depends….
Some women are happy to get down to business the night they meet; others will wait weeks or months before doing the deed. Whatever a woman’s decision, I had to ask: Does the double standard still exist today? In other words, if a woman gives up the cookie to a guy too soon, does she automatically nix her chances for long-term love or is that old-fashioned nonsense in today’s modern-day dating scene? To find out, I have interviewed men and women to get different perspectives on the subject at hand.
How long should you wait before you have sex?
This has been the topic of discussion between women and men for hundreds of years; which has no definite answer. Women and men are split and basically have two views on the topic, one view is to be a good girl and make him wait. The other view is being able to fulfill their needs like men. For men, a large percentage say; if a woman gives up the cookie too soon, she has no chance to be the apple of his eye…
The general consensus of younger men is that, they refuse to wait for sex. Younger men admit to moving on to someone who will put out vs. someone who is saving it for later! What is odd and intriguing to me is the practice of not respecting a woman who decides to have sex right away, in other words they say these women are not “wifey” material. It’s rather confusing, if they are not into waiting for sex from a woman; whom are they planning to marry? At some point, they will end up waiting for the “good girl”.
You don’t have to just take my word for these opinions; Chokklit did some homework and decide to interview 6 people.
September column includes:
- How long should you wait before you have sex with someone you are dating?
- Will a man respect a woman who has sex very early on in a relationship or, has had multiple sex partners in the past?
- Should you discuss your sexual history with your partner?
- How many partners are acceptable?
- Is there still a double standard for women?
- “The only time you love her” an original poem from Chokkklit